It is possible to overcome enmeshment and create a life on your own terms.
It requires:

• Understanding that the burdens of responsibility and loyalty to your parent over your own life are a problem that needs addressing.
• Learning to sort out normal feelings of concern or care for your parent from the assigned inappropriate role that you should take care of their loneliness and comfort.
• Learning to declare loyalty to your own wishes and your spouse or partner over the inappropriate demands of your parent.
• Learning to push back and say “No” to demands that bring about guilt and demands for loyalty.
• Learning to set boundaries that encourage separateness regarding frequency of contact, topics of conversation, and how visits will be arranged.
• Learning to visit rather than getting involved in the drama of your parent of your family.
• That you commit fully to the live you wish to live without compromise!

If you struggle to make changes, it may be time to look into doing therapy. Please feel free to contact us or explore our web site to learn about our services and workshops on this topic.